INTIMACY…..

Posted on June 27, 2015 by joseph beach

Intimacy, what does it really mean? Have we misunderstood its true meaning? Have we minimized the true value of its worth?

Last night my thoughts became consumed with these questions about Intimacy, almost to the point of making me get out of bed. I keep wondering what God was trying to tell me concerning Intimacy. The answer is everything! So I began listening for His answer concerning Intimacy.

God desires an Intimate relationship with us, but what makes it Intimate? Let’s look at the word Intimacy, it has deeper meaning than we think. Intimacy I believe means, Into Me See. God is able to look deep inside our very essence, past the superficial garbage, past our dysfunctional selves, and past our brokenness to see our Greatness. Because of this He continues to Loves even though we prove ourselves to be unlovable at times.

The reason many relationships fail is because we don’t take the time to be Intimate with each other, taking the time to see past the exterior of that person. Intimacy is so much more than sex, learn to have conversations, try holding hands, having public displays of affection, or try drinking in the essence of each other. Sex should come later because of we took the time to be Intimate with each other first. God takes the time to know us Intimately, and we should do the same with Him and others.

The world has minimized the true meaning of Intimacy, narrowed it down to a 30-minute sexual encounter, when Intimacy can be something that can last a lifetime. True relationships go beyond the outer part of a person, or minimum generic information we learn about someone. Intimate relationships go to the core of a person, to their very essence of who they are. Intimacy isn’t for those fly by night encounters or the faint at heart, Intimacy is for those in it for the long haul.

Remember Intimacy isn’t sex, sex can come as a result of Intimacy. Allow Intimacy to be what it’s designed to be, a deeper look into another person.

INTO ME SEE!

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MY PERSPECTIVE!

Posted on June 26, 2015 by joseph beach

Before I get started, I would like you all to know this isn’t about judgement, it is only my perspective about homosexuality and gay marriage. With that being said here I go. It is not my place to judge others for the choices they make, nor is it my place to condemn those who think differently than I do. It is not my place to force my own personal views on anyone. It is my place to show respect to others for who they are based on their character as a person, and nothing more.

This is my perspective of the word homosexual, it refers to a person who decides to have a sexual relationship with a person of the same sex. This does not define the character of a person, it defines their sexual preference. Two men or two women living together doesn’t constitute homosexuality, we call that being roommates.

My perspective on transvestites and transgender, a transvestite is a person who makes the choice to live as the opposite sex, and usually has homosexual encounters. Transgenderism refers to people who make the choice to become the opposite sex, and again usually has homosexual encounters.

Remember this is just my perspective, my truth and no one else’s. This is my issue with all of this. I don’t concern myself with the sexual preference that a person chooses, I am more concerned with the content of their character. But I do have an issue with a person trying to force their choices down my throat. What happens in your bedroom is the business of the people who share your bedroom, and not mine. When you try to make me alright with a lifestyle I don’t particularly care for, I have an issue with that.

When you say I was born a man, but I’m a woman on the inside or I was born a woman, but I’m a man on the inside, that’s not necessarily correct.

So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep, and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.

23 The man said, “This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’
for she was taken out of man.”

24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Genesis 2: 18-24

Remember, these are God’s words, not mine.  So if God’s word is true, and it is, then the feminine part of man was removed from him. Remember this is only my perspective, I can’t say what makes a person make the choices they do because that would be between them and God.

I also hear the statement, “you can’t help who you fall in love with,” and I agree with that, but God doesn’t tell us who we should or shouldn’t fall in love with, but He does say:

22You shall not lie with a male as with a woman; it is an abomination. 23And you shall not lie with any animal and so make yourself unclean with it, neither shall any woman give herself to an animal to lie with it: it is a perversion. Leviticus 18:22-23

As you can see in the scripture above, God doesn’t condemn anyone for loving someone, His only concern is who and what we have sex with. Again this is not to be judgmental, only my perspective of things.

Last but not least, gay marriage. Again I say people can love whomever they choose, and I’m alright with them having some type of union joining them together, but the word of God says:

24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Genesis 2:24

What makes this difficult in a gay marriage is, if you have two men joined in marriage there can be no joining of the flesh because they are missing the same part, and with two women the ribs can’t be joined together. Even though Adam and Eve weren’t perfect, they were a perfect fit for each other. Even in a relationship between a man and woman, you still might not find the perfect fit, so you can imagine how difficult it must be for homosexuals.

I am not against people who are in love with each other, but just like I don’t want to be forced to see or hear about a husband and wife’s escapades concerning their sex life, or a pedophile describing his sexual thoughts concerning a child, I don’t want to be forced to be alright with men sleeping with men, or women sleeping with women. What you decide to do in your bedroom is your choice, and I respect that choice. All I’m asking is that you respect my choice not to be alright with it. That doesn’t mean I can’t be your friend, family member, or coworker, I just want to know do you have Great Character, Integrity, Honesty, Truthfulness, Love and Respect for the next person.

In closing all I want to say is, I will Respect who you are and your choice, but please Respect who I am and my choices as well!

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EYES WIDE SHUT

Posted on June 25, 2015 by joseph beach

How often have we complained about what was happening in our lives, believing God had left us to suffer some insurmountable injustice, only for Him to show us or give us greater? Why is it so easy for us to forget ALL that has already done for us? Just like the Children of Israel, we have become selfish, as well as believing that we are due some special privilege, because of our suffering.

and the people of Israel said to them, “Would that we had died by the hand of the LORD in the land of Egypt, when we sat by the meat pots and ate bread to the full, for you have brought us out into this wilderness to kill this whole assembly with hunger.” Exodus 16:3

Just like the children of Israel, many of us cry out to God about our situation or issue that is occurring in our lives. Then once God answers our cry we complain about the way He removes the problem. We ask God to remove a toxic person from our lives, and then we complain about being lonely. We cry about not having enough to get by, but when God provides us with more we complain still about not having enough.

How long can we continue to act like God hasn’t done enough for us? How long can we turn a Blind eye to all that He has given us?

Then Nathan said to David, “You are the man! This is what the Lord, the God of Israel, says: ‘I anointed you king over Israel, and I delivered you from the hand of Saul. 8 I gave your master’s house to you, and your master’s wives into your arms. I gave you all Israel and Judah. And if all this had been too little, I would have given you even more. 9 Why did you despise the word of the Lord by doing what is evil in his eyes? 2 Samuel 12: 7-9

God doesn’t deny us, because He doesn’t want us to have anything, God denies us so He can give us Greater! Our flesh is Selfish, and no matter how much we give it, it will never be satisfied, because it’s appetite is insatiable. The children of Israel ended up in the wilderness for forty years because they couldn’t be satisfied. It was only an Eleven day journey! How long do we want to stay in our Wilderness? What’s keeping from making it to your PROMISE?

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What Father’s Day Means To Me!

Posted on June 20, 2015 by joseph beach

Father’s Day, such a joyous occasion, families gathering together to celebrate the Patriarchs of their families. Men who have sacrificed themselves for the sake of their children. Men who are exceptionally great heroes in the eyes of their children and even others. This is Father’s Day!

For me father’s day looks different, it’s not full of accolades, celebrations, or even cards. My father’s days until just recent have been filled with silence, no cards, no calls, no nothing. I understand that many men aren’t the model of Fatherhood that is celebrated every year, but it doesn’t mean they sacrificed any less than those who receive all the praise. It doesn’t mean that our children aren’t important to us, or that we Love them any less. Many of our sacrifices go unseen, never spoken of, and never celebrated.

We’ve been called many things, father isn’t usually one of them. We have been called Deadbeat, Bastard, Trifling, and just plain No Good, because we didn’t or don’t have the resources to provide, or a way to get there. We have missed many Birthdays, Holidays, and Games. Now I’m not saying we are victims, because we have some responsibility in our Misery. When we were in the Selfish state of our lives, because we were Addicted to Drugs, or we were seeking someone to Love us in our broken state, that was all us and no one else. But I’m speaking about when we began getting it together, and start asking to spend time with our children and we get answers like, “we already have something planned, their phone is broken, or they Hate you and don’t want anything to do with you!” We often hear, “It took both of us to make this child,” and that is true. But it seems that some women forget that when their emotions are still tied up in the hurt of the Breakup of the relationship. Then the children become Weapons of War, they are used to inflict hurt and pain on the father, because she wants him to feel what she is feeling in her Emotional state.

Please understand that this doesn’t depict every mother, because there are some men that just don’t want the Responsibility of being a father. This war goes on for Decades, because there no place for Forgiveness, Healing, or True Understanding! But in Reality the Only Victims are the Children. They Suffer the Selfishness of their parents! Mothers and Fathers wave a banner displaying the Prideful statement, “I will do anything for my child,” until it has to do with their Ex! Then it becomes I don’t Trust my children around them, or the person they may be with! The Ironic thing is that you trusted them enough to Lay down with them and create a Child!

The real issue is no one took the time to understand the other’s family Dynamics, they fell in love/lust with the Outer shell, and when the Truth became apparent, neither of them understood how to handle the Brokenness of the other.

If you have Fathered a Child/Children, please do everything you can to be a part of their lives! Mothers learn to Forgive and don’t use your Child/Children as a Weapons of War. No one Suffers more than the Child/Children! Children can Learn Forgiveness from their Parents, so teach them!

Again I say this Blog isn’t about All fathers or mothers, it is for those who have been in Battle for so long, they are now passing it down to their children.

And he shall turn the hearts of the father to their children, and the heart of the children to their fathers, lest I come and strike the land with a decree of utter destruction.”

HAPPY FATHER’S DAY!

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Perfect Will or Permissive Will?

Posted on June 18, 2015 by joseph beach

Do we take God’s Grace and Mercy for granted? When we make choices that are not pleasing to God, and then bank on God forgiving us, is like trying to pimp God’s Grace. It’s not like we don’t understand right from wrong, we are just selfish, and want to be able to do whatever we want without any consequences. God would love for us to be in His Perfect Will, but understands that we struggle within our flesh, so He gives us His Permissive Will.

They said to him, “Why did Moses command one to give a certificate of divorce and send her away?” He said to them, because of the hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. Matthew 19: 7-8

This scripture is just an example of how God allows us to make our own decisions. Even though we have the power of choice, we should still strive to make the correct choices for our lives. There is a difference in making a poor choice, because of the lack of knowledge and making a poor choice for selfish reasons. Either way, the choice comes with consequences. The question is, are we willing to pay the consequences that come from the choices we make? Granted trying to live in God’s Perfect Will is difficult, but it should be our Goal. Taking advantage of God’s Permissive Will is a dangerous game to play, not only for the person making the choice, but for those who are unknowingly involved.

Let’s stop trying to pimp God’s Grace and Mercy, let us seek to be in His Perfect Will, instead of trying to manipulate His Permissive Will!

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How I Almost Lost My Voice, To The Voices Inside My Head!

Posted on May 28, 2015 by joseph beach

 so that it does not hear the voice of the charmers or of the cunning enchanter. Psalm 58:5

I almost stopped, I almost didn’t do what God is calling me to, all because I heard the deceptive voices in my head, telling me no one wanted to hear what I had to say. What they say may be true, people my not want to hear what I have to say, but God’s children will want to hear what God has to say. God told me to write Blogs, but instead of listening to God, I began to listen to the voices inside my head. They told me that I wasn’t anexpert in anything, that my writing abilities were far from perfect, and I really didn’t have anything worth hearing, and I believed them. To be honest I’m not an expert on any particular subject, yes my writing abilities can use some work, and what I’ll be Blogging about won’t be anything new, but it is and will be exactly what someone will need.

Now therefore, my son, obey my voice as I command you. Genesis 27:8

God doesn’t speak to our mind, or our hearts, because they can become corrupted. God speaks to our Spirt, because our spirit is a part of who He is. I will no longer allow myself to be subjected to the noise inside my head and the emotions of my heart, I want to keep the communication open and forever going in my relationship with God. I don’t know who may be struggling with hearing God, but all I can say is listen for the Whisper, because He’s calling you to Greatness. Let His voice speak to your Spirit so He can guide you to your Destiny. Get rid of the noise and the clutter that’s clouding your thoughts.

I am realizing that I am an expert at something, and that is getting it wrong. I have been doing for so long that it has become a normal part of my life. With that being said, I can write about things that I failed at, but God helped me to recover from. Failing at something doesn’t mean that life is over for you, but it is a chance to find a way to get it right, or another way to get it done. Life isn’t always about being right or wrong, but being different. I’m not saying there isn’t right or wrong, but some situtations are a matter of difference.

I pray whatever God’s intentions are for my writing come to manifestation, and that I remain obedient to His will and not my own. I pray what I have to say will be a help to those that may need it, and give clarity to those who may be lost. I understand that what I am called to do has nothing to do with me or my ability to do it the way someone else believes I should. It’s about what God has purposed for my life!

Call to me and I will answer you, and will tell you great and hidden things that you have not known. Jeremiah 33:3

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Division: Death of the American Family

Posted on May 21, 2015 by joseph beach

For the son treats the father with contempt, the daughter rises up against her mother, the daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law; a man’s enemies are the men of his own house. Micah 7:6

Can’t seem to gather my thoughts, it happened so quickly or did it? It’s hard to tell what’s going on, I can’t locate the others. I remember coming here together, but I can’t remember how we got separated. Finally the smoke is clearing; I can just about get my bearings. Wait are those bodies over there, and who’s? Oh no, it can’t be! My wife and children are dead. How did it happened, what went wrong, why didn’t we stay together? Now they’re gone forever…
This scenario sounds just like a movie, but in reality it happens every day. The American Family is dying because of Division. The war against the enemy has turned us against each other, no longer are we concerned with the strengthening of our families, (which has become a thing of the past), instead we are now focused on our individual selfish needs. We have been fooled into believing we can accomplish more by doing things on our own. We have come to believe that we should only be responsible for and to ourselves, and no one else and now our families are suffering as we seek self fulfillment. This war is no longer against the enemy, it is now husband against wife, child against parent, and our families are being destroyed from the inside out. What have we really gained in all of this, why are we so willing to sacrifice our families for nothing?
Is it possible for us to regain the Unity of Family? Can we mend the brokenness, which has caused so much chaos in our lives? Can we stop placing blame and begin to concentrate on the healing process? The enemy seeks to divide and conquer, and even though splitting up allows us to cover more ground, it leaves us vulnerable to attack.

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